'The intrigue of infidelity with its tumultuous twists and turns' - book

While the frequency and causes of extramarital affairs have been explored in the past, there are few qualitative studies that have explored the factors that keep couples together after an extramarital affair and how these relationships have been rebuilt. The purpose of the present study was to explore the experience of couples affected by infidelity, including factors that helped participants in rebuilding their relationship. The research employed narrative inquiry with qualitative in-depth interviews using a purposive sample of seven informants. The participants were defined as those aged 18 or over, who had experienced extramarital infidelity (either party) and had remained as a couple for at least two years after the discovery of infidelity. The key findings from this study revealed motivational factors such as the investment of children, property and time as well as a desire to solve problems were instrumental in couples resolving their problems. Helpful strategies in rebuilding the relationships were making meaning of of the affair and breaking the cultural barriers. It was found that reconciliation occurred through forgiveness, counselling and the rebuilding of trust.